Nowadays, it is more normal to be take time for yourself in pursuing what you want and pursuing your own success and ambitions before settling down with marriage or with a family  

Daniel Huh – “I used to think that I would want to date in my late 20’s. But now that I’m in my late 20’s now, I don’t think that’s going to happen haha. I’m guessing I’ll marry sometime in my 30’s?”

In class, we learned that the search is now much longer and more extensive than in the past. There are longer expected lengths of time for a relationship. And the cost of search is much lower with changes in values now. There are better opportunities (with increasing urbanization, technological change etc) which even leads to longer years in childhood. This was very evident in the differences of my brother and my father. My father married when he was 27 years old and put an end to his singlehood. But my brother is 29 and is still unmarried and not even in a relationship.

Paul Huh – “I was actually pretty late in getting married compared to my peers, considering most of my peers were in ministry. And pastors usually get married pretty early. But in Korean culture, I guess traditional parents are more likely to want you to get settled down as they are consumed with stability and success. I don’t think I really liked that. I’m guessing to them, I could’ve settled down sooner.”